Setting Boundaries: A Guide for Healthy and Respectful Gay Encounters

Why is it important to set your boundaries in gay encounters?

How to communicate your boundaries?

Do not be afraid to indicate in your discussions what you do not like to be done to you or what you do not like to do, because we all have our boundaries. However, it is unnecessary to specify them in your profile, which should remain positive.

Common boundaries often include: dirty, violence, SM, blood. Stated this way, it is by no means something negative; it is simply a list of what you do not wish to hear about.

When and how to discuss your boundaries?

It is important to specify that boundaries are not communicated at the last minute! You won’t suddenly tell a confirmed barebacker during the encounter: “Oh no, put on a condom!” You must always agree on these kinds of points before the encounter. The same goes for the famous “where do I cum?” which is a classic in the middle of the action. Fall on an undecided person and they will cut you off in your momentum!

Why is it essential to ask for others’ boundaries?

Once you have set your boundaries, always ask for those of others. This will show that you are not selfish and that you also care about what the other person wants and what they do not want. A casual encounter always involves two people, always remember that!