Gay bareback vocabulary glossary

Clear definitions of gay and bareback terms, acronyms and practices, sorted A to Z, with related words and their French translation. (463 terms)

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ABDL — ABDL, for "Adult Baby / Diaper Lover", is one of the most intense and intimate fantasies there is.
Abimegender — This is the official flag of the Abimegenders :
Abrosexuality — Abrosexuality describes a fluid and changing sexual orientation over time.
Aegosexuality & Aegoromanticism — Aegosexuality (or aegoromanticism for romantic attraction) describes a person who enjoys the idea of sex or romance in theory, but does not wish to participate in it themselves.
Affectugender — Affectugender is a gender identity that is influenced by a person's mood swings or neurodivergence.
Aftercare — Aftercare is not an option, it's the come-down. After pushing your body and mind to their limits, after being broken and emptied, you are in a state of total vulnerability.
Age Play — Age Play is a journey through time and a particular role-play. It is a scenario where a consenting adult chooses to embody a younger version of themselves, a "Little".
Agender — Agender describes a person who does not identify with any gender.
Algolagnia — Algolagnia is the scientific name for our most beautiful perversion: the brain's ability to rewire pain to transform it into pure pleasure.
Aliagender — Aliagender is a gender identity that defines itself as "other" or "elsewhere," and is not linked to existing gender constructs.
Alpha — The Alpha is the dominant male, the group leader. In a group or a polyamorous relationship, his word is law and his desire is an order.
AMAB and AFAB — You've probably already come across these acronyms, AMAB for "Assigned Male At Birth" and AFAB for "Assigned Female At Birth".
Amicussexuality — Amicussexuality is a sexual orientation where sexual attraction is felt only towards people with whom a deep platonic friendship has been established.
Anal Cum Spitting (BDSM) — Anal Cum Spitting is the act of spitting out sperm received in the ass. It's a practice that may seem disgusting, but it is very exciting for those who enjoy games of soiling and humiliation.
Anal Hook — The Anal Hook, or anal hook, is an instrument of power used in certain BDSM practices. It is not a toy for beginners, but a cold metal object designed to exert absolute control over the submissive.
Androgyny — Androgyny is a gender expression that combines elements of masculinity and femininity. It manifests as a self-presentation that blurs traditional boundaries, adopting characteristics often associated with both genders.
Androsexuality / Androphilia — Androsexuality, or androphilia, refers to a sexual and/or romantic attraction primarily towards masculinity.
Apogender — Apogender is a gender identity where the person feels distinct from all known gender concepts.
Apotemnophilia — Apotemnophilia is an intense and obsessive desire to become an amputee. It is not a simple game or an attraction to already amputated people, but a deep and erotic need to have one's own perfectly healthy limb removed.
Aroflux — Aroflux describes a person whose romantic orientation fluctuates over time. This fluctuation can manifest in various ways, for example, by moving from an aromantic identity (absence of romantic attraction) to a gray-romantic identity (rare or conditional romantic attraction) or even to a romantic identity (full and com
Aromanticism — An aromantic person is someone who experiences little to no romantic attraction towards others.
Asexuality — Asexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by the absence of sexual attraction towards others.
Assignment at Birth — Assignment at birth is the process by which a sex (male or female) is attributed to an individual at birth, based primarily on the observation of their external genitalia.
Autosexuality — Autosexuality is a sexual orientation where a person is primarily or exclusively sexually attracted to themselves.

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Backroom — Generally, a backroom is a room located at the back of an establishment, often less visible and sometimes used for more private or informal activities.
Ball Busting — Ball Busting is a BDSM practice that involves hitting, squeezing, or applying pressure to a partner's testicles.
Ball Gag — The Ball Gag, or ball-gag, is a classic BDSM accessory. Its design is simple: a ball, usually made of silicone or rubber, connected to a leather strap.
Bareback — The term "bareback" comes directly from English, and originally, from the world of horse riding.
Bareback — The word "bareback" is much more than a simple translation of "sex without a condom." It's a term loaded with fantasies, risks, meanings, and codes, a word that acts as a rallying point for a community seeking a form of intensity and connection that protected sex, in their eyes, cannot offer.
Bareback Seeding — Don't be fooled by the clinical word. In our jargon, "seeding" has nothing to do with a baby project.
Barebacking Conversion (HIV) — In the world of bareback, Conversion is not an accident; it's a quest. It's the act of seeking to become HIV-positive, of wanting to contract HIV.
BDSM — BDSM, an acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sado-masochism, is a rich and complex universe where the exploration of fantasies, power, and pain takes place within a framework of trust and mutual respect.
BDSM Contract — The contract, in the BDSM sphere, has no legal standing. It's a ceremony, a ritual that formalizes the surrender of your will.
BDSM Flogger — The Flogger, or Cat o' Nine Tails, is an iconic instrument of punishment, inherited from naval and corporal punishments.
BDSM Mummification — Mummification, in the BDSM context, is a practice of bondage and sensory deprivation where a person's body is entirely wrapped, usually with plastic film, bondage tape, or bandages.
BDSM Protocol — Protocol is the invisible architecture of your submission. It is not just a list of rules, but the structure that supports your existence as a slave, 24 hours a day.
BDSM Slave Contract — The slave contract is the sacred text of your dehumanization. It's not a game; it's a document that formalizes the transfer of ownership of yourself to your Master.
BDSM Training — Training is the process by which a Master transforms a human being into a perfect slave. It is not education; it is programming.
Bear — A "Bear" is a gay man characterized by a strong physique (robust, stocky, even large) and developed body hair.
Ben Wa Balls — Ben Wa Balls, also known as geisha balls, are traditionally a feminine accessory designed to strengthen pelvic floor muscles.
Beta — The term "Beta" generally refers to a subordinate or secondary position relative to an "Alpha." In bareback and BDSM vocabulary, the Beta is often seen as the lieutenant, the right-hand man of the Alpha.
Bicurious — The term "bicurious" describes a person who is curious or open to the idea of having romantic or sexual experiences with people of more than one gender, but who is not yet certain of their bisexual or pansexual orientation.
Bigender — The term "bigender" describes a person whose gender identity encompasses two distinct genders.
Bisexuality — The term "bisexual" describes a person who is emotionally, romantically, and/or sexually attracted to more than one gender.
Bit Gag — The Bit Gag is an accessory that takes humiliation a step further than a simple gag. Inspired by the bit used for horses, it consists of a bar, often made of metal or hard rubber, that the submissive must bite.
Blackmail Fetish — The Blackmail Fetish is the ultimate psychological power play. The submissive voluntarily gives their Dominant "compromising material": nude photos, videos, intimate confessions, sensitive professional information.
Blood Play — Blood Play is a sacred and dangerous territory. It is the crossing of the last frontier, that of the skin.
Blowjob Plan Definition — A blowjob plan is simply a plan where people give each other oral sex. One can also masturbate, but there is no penetration.
Blowover — After an intense chemsex session, your body and mind need time to land. This recovery period, often long and difficult, is what is called the Blowover.
Body Worship — Body Worship is the prayer of the submissive. It is the act of transforming the Dominant's body into a temple, and every square inch of their skin into an altar.
Bondage — Bondage is the art of tying up one's partner. It is an SM practice that plays on domination, submission, and trust.
Bondage Rig — A Bondage Rig is not just a simple set of ropes. It is a structure, a frame, often made of metal or wood, specifically designed to completely immobilize a body.
Booty Bumping — Booty Bumping is the art of getting high through the ass. In French, it is sometimes referred to as 'drug anal plug' or rectal administration, but the English term is more direct and common in the scene.
Booze Hookup Definition — A Booze Hookup is a casual encounter that starts with drinks and ends up in bed. It's a classic of nights out with friends, Tinder dates, and boozy weekends.
Branding BDSM — Branding is an extreme BDSM practice that involves marking a partner's skin with a heated object.
Brat (BDSM) — In the grand theater of submission, the "Brat" is the magnificent troublemaker. This is a submissive who will never surrender on a silver platter.
Brat Tamer — Not all Dominants are cut out to tame a Brat. It requires a particular profile, an expert, a "Brat Tamer".
Breath Control (Étouffement) in BDSM — Breath control, or 'étouffement', is a BDSM practice that involves depriving one's partner of oxygen to intensify orgasm.
Breath Play (Breath Control) — Breath play is the ultimate power game. It's not about your ass or your mouth, but about the air that keeps you alive.
Breathplay — Breathplay is a flirtation with the edge. It's the act of entrusting your Dominant with the most vital thing you possess: your breath.
Breeder (Fertilizer) — The "Breeder" fantasy is one of the most primal there is. It's not about wanting to have children.
Breeding (Reproduction) — Breeding, in English, literally means 'rearing' or 'reproduction'. In the context of gay sex and bareback, the term has been reappropriated to describe a very specific fantasy: that of being filled, of being 'seeded' by a virile man.
Bridging — Bridging, literally 'making the bridge', is a key concept for understanding HIV transmission dynamics.
Broken — In the pornographic universe, the term "Broken" describes a state of profound psychological and emotional submission.
Bug Chaser — The Bug Chaser, literally the 'virus hunter', is a person who actively seeks to be infected with HIV.
Bukkake — Bukkake is a Japanese word meaning "to splash." So, it's no surprise that this practice has its place in barebacking!
Bunnies BDSM — "Bunnies" are the new recruits, the fresh meat arriving in the arena, eyes wide open and asses itching with desire.
Butch — The term "butch" is an adjective and a gender and expression identity primarily used within the lesbian community to describe women who exhibit traits, manners, clothing styles, or gender roles traditionally associated with masculinity.

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Cam Play — Cam play is webcam sex. It's a game of voyeurism and exhibitionism.
Camtocam (or Camacam) — "Camtocam" (sometimes Frenchified as "camacam") refers to a cybersex practice where two or more people interact sexually via their webcams.
Cane (Rattan Cane) — The cane (or rattan cane) is an instrument of punishment. There is no room for ambiguity.
Cattle Prod (BDSM) — The Cattle Prod is an object that inspires primal fear. Designed to direct livestock with electric shocks, its use in BDSM is the epitome of dehumanization and domination through terror.
Caviar Plan — The "caviar plan" is a term in sexual slang that refers to excrement fetishism, also known as coprophilia or scatophilia.
CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) — CBT, or 'Cock and Ball Torture', is a BDSM practice that involves inflicting pain on male genitals.
CEC (Civil Status Change) — CEC, or Civil Status Change, is a french administrative term that covers a deeply human and political reality.
Ceterosexual — The term "ceterosexual" describes a person who is attracted to non-binary individuals. This term is often used by non-binary people themselves to describe their attraction to other non-binary people, or by binary people (men or women) who are exclusively attracted to non-binary individuals.
Champagne Plan — The "champagne plan" is, like the "golden shower", an expression used to designate a uro plan (urine fetishism).
Charge (Poz Load) — The word "charge," in the bareback scene, is a code: we're not talking about the viral load of your blood test, we're talking about the "load," the cum.
Chastity Cage (BDSM) — The chastity cage is one of the most powerful psychological control tools in the BDSM arsenal.
Chemsex — Chemsex means using psychoactive drugs (cathinones, GHB/GBL, methamphetamine, ketamine…) in order to have sex, often long sessions with several partners; in France 13% of sexually active men who have sex with men practised it over 6 months (2023).
Chemsex (Chemsex Plan) — The "chemsex plan" (from "chemicals") is a casual sex encounter under the influence of synthetic drugs.
Cho7 (Sock Fetish) — "Cho7" is simply the word "sock" in french SMS language : "chaussette" become "cho7" and be pronouced exactly the same.
Cis-passing — "Passing" is somewhat like a social charade where you didn't choose the rules. It's a person's ability to be perceived by others as belonging to a certain category.
Cisgender — Cisgender (often abbreviated as cis) is a term describing a person whose gender identity corresponds to the sex assigned to them at birth.
Cisgender Person Definition — A cis person, or cisgender, is an individual whose gender identity corresponds to the one assigned at birth.
Cisnormativity — Cisnormativity is the twin sister of heteronormativity, applied to gender. It is this omnipresent and often unconscious presumption that everyone is cisgender.
Clebs (Dog Mentality) — So, "clebs" is a word you'll often come across in gay ads, and you need to know how to decipher it.
CNC (Consensual Non-Consensual) — CNC is the most beautiful and dangerous of lies. It's a scenario, a play in which you are the only two actors, built on the strongest of foundations: total, informed, and enthusiastic consent, negotiated long before the first door slams shut.
Collar (BDSM) — Forget the accessory. The collar is not an object one wears; it's a state one inhabits.
Come Down & Relapse — After the euphoria, chaos. The Come Down is the inevitable backlash after a chemsex session.
Coming Out — "Coming Out" is the process by which an LGBTQ+ person (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, etc.) reveals their sexual orientation or gender identity to others.
Comprehensive Definition — A BBK Plan, or Bback Plan, is slang for bareback, which means anal or vaginal sex without a condom.
Comsexual — The term "comsexual" is used to describe a person who is not asexual, meaning they experience sexual attraction.
Consensual Sequestration Definition — This is the intelligent and safe version of kidnapping. No external risk, just the intensity of isolation.
Consent Negotiation — The consent negotiation scene is the most cerebral and intimate form of unveiling. It's a role-play where the act of negotiating itself becomes the source of excitement.
Conversion or Seroconversion (HIV) — The term "conversion" or "seroconversion" is a clinical word that hides a simple reality: it is the moment when a person becomes HIV-positive after being infected with HIV.
Creampie — The word "Creampie" comes from porn, and everyone knows what it is. But it's not just the act of emptying oneself inside someone.
Cross-dresser (Trav) — "Trav" is the diminutive of "travesti" (cross-dresser). It is a man who dresses as a woman, with lingerie, women's shoes, makeup, and very often wears a wig.
Crucifixion Play (BDSM) — Basic rope suspension is already a game that forgives no mistakes. The extreme version is playing Russian roulette because it involves suspending someone unconscious, who can no longer give their safeword or signal a problem.
Cuckolding — Cuckolding is not a story of infidelity; it's a spectacle of impotence and absolute power, orchestrated for the twisted pleasure of the one being cheated on.
Cul à honorer — "Cul à honorer" (ass to be honored) is a term often encountered in the presence of a good passive slut.
Cum Eater (Sperm and Piss) — There is a hunger that is not satisfied by simple penetration, however intense it may be. It is a need to go beyond the skin, to seek a connection or a form of power so total that it involves the ingestion of the very essence of the other.
Cum Guzzling — In gay sexual slang, "biberonner" (best translated as "cum guzzling" or "cum chugging") refers to the act of performing fellatio until ejaculation, then collecting and swallowing the semen directly from the source, as if drinking from a baby bottle.
Cum Play — Cum Play, or "plan jus" (juice plan), is a sexual practice centered around semen and its playful and fetishistic use.
Cum-Dump Definition — The term cum-dump refers to someone who enjoys bringing others to orgasm, whether through fellatio, masturbation, or penetration.
Cum-Stained Boxer & Underwear — A cum-stained boxer or cum-stained underwear refers to an undergarment (boxer briefs or briefs) into which a person has ejaculated.
Cupioromantic and Cupiosexual — The terms Cupioromantic and Cupiosexual describe specific experiences within the aromantic and asexual spectrums, respectively.
Cutting BDSM — Cutting is the ultimate signature, written in blood ink. It is an act of trust where you offer your skin to your Master's blade, not for suffering, but for the mark.

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D/s (Dominance and Submission) — Forget everything you think you know about power. In a D/s relationship, we're not talking about brute force, but about an exchange, a consensual and infinitely more exciting power play.
Daddy's Girl / Daddy's Boy — The "Daddy's Girl" or "Daddy's Boy" role-play dynamic is a refuge, a space of tenderness and structure.
Daddy/Mommy (BDSM) — A "Daddy" or a "Mommy" is a unique power figure. They blend the absolute authority of a Dominant with almost parental tenderness and care.
Deadname — A "deadname" is the birth name or previously used name of a transgender or non-binary person before their transition, which they no longer wish to use.
Deepthroat — Deepthroat, or "fond de gorge" as it is sometimes called in a rarer slang, is a form of fellatio where the penis is inserted as deeply as possible into the partner's mouth and throat.
Definition of "Teen" — Teen is an abbreviation for teenager, and teenager means "adolescent." This is a word we particularly dislike, as it is too borderline…
Definition of Discipline (BDSM) — Discipline is an act of love and possession. It is not the anger of a master, but the rigor of an owner shaping their most precious possession.
Definition of Nature Encounter / Outdoor Sex — A nature encounter or outdoor encounter is simply the act of having sex outside of a dwelling.
Definition of Outdoor Encounter — An outdoor encounter includes encounters in nature and other outdoor plans. However, we have separated it from others because it also includes other types of encounters that are not so outdoor, as they frequent certain establishments: sex shops, clubs, and nightclubs.
Definition of Punishment — Punishment is a training tool. It's not anger, it's mechanics.
Definition of Remplir (fill the ass) — In bareback and sex plan jargon, "remplir" (to fill) or "se faire remplir" (to get filled) is a rather transparent expression.
Definition of Saillir (Rump to be Mounted) — "Saillir," a term borrowed from animal vocabulary, is used in the bareback context to describe the act of penetrating and ejaculating into a partner's anus.
Definition of Sought Punishment (Funishment) — In this context, sought punishment is a pleasure, the most delicious of manipulations. As the submissive, you are secretly pulling the strings.
Definition of Tasser (cul tassé) — "Tasser" or "se faire tasser le cul" (literally "to pack" or "to get one's ass packed") is a bareback vocabulary expression that describes the act of penetrating an anus already filled with semen.
Demisexuality — A demisexual person only experiences sexual attraction to someone after developing a strong emotional bond with that person.
Depraved Plan — A "depraved plan" is an umbrella term for a sexual encounter that goes beyond the ordinary, exploring fantasies considered "dirty" or "perverse" by common morality.
Diamoric Definition — The term diamoric is a generic term used to describe the romantic and/or sexual orientations of non-binary people.
Dicklit Definition — So, you're wondering what a 'dicklit' is? Imagine a clitoris that has grown in volume, lengthened, to the point of resembling a small penis.
Direct Encounters & Immediate Sex — The direct sex plan is the promise of a direct and straightforward sexual encounter. Forget long exchanges, pretenses, and hesitations.
Direct Plan — A direct plan is a no-frills hookup. No long speeches, we get straight to the point: sex.
Discover the definition of Service Top — A Dominant at service to another exists. The "Service Top" is a Dominant whose pleasure lies in the perfection of the experience they offer to their submissive.
Discover the Dominant Mindset — The "Dominant Mindset" is a switch in the head. It's the moment you stop being an ordinary person to become a force of nature, an embodied authority.
Dog Training (BDSM) Definition — Dog training is a BDSM practice where a submissive is treated like a dog by their master. They are on all fours, on a leash, wearing a collar, and eating from a bowl.
Dogging — Dogging is the ultimate hunt. It's a return to a primal state, a practice that blends the thrill of the forbidden, voyeurism, exhibitionism, and the raw need to be used by strangers.
Dom/Dominant — A Dominant, a Domina, does not take power. They reveal it.
Dosing / Dumping a Load — This is bareback slang for the final act, the moment of truth: "Dosing," "dumping a load," "shooting a load," "giving your load"...
Dragon's Tongue — The Dragon's Tongue is a specialized BDSM impact toy, designed to offer a variety of sensations ranging from sensual caresses to intense stimulation.
Dressage (Training) — Dressage is the process by which a Master transforms a human being into a perfect slave. It is not education; it is programming.
Drowning Play (BDSM) — Drowning play is the most dangerous form of "breath play." It is no longer about controlling breathing but suppressing it with water.

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Edgeplay Definition — Edgeplay is often described in vague terms in French such as "sans tabou" (without taboo), "notabou", "no limit", "sans limite" (without limit), and it remains a dance on a razor's edge.
Edging — Edging is the most delicious torture there is. It's the art of keeping you on the razor's edge, on the verge of explosion, for an eternity.
Ego Death (Mort de l'ego) — Ego Death and Identity Erasure are not a scene—they are a demolition project. It is the most extreme evolution of psychological domination, a long-term process aimed at completely dismantling a submissive's original identity.
Electro-stimulation (E-stim) BDSM — Electro-stimulation, or e-stim, is the practice of using electric currents to induce intense sensations and involuntary muscle contractions.
Enby — "Enby" is a familiar and phonetic term derived from the English abbreviation "NB" (non-binary), used to designate a non-binary person.
Erotic Asphyxiation — Erotic asphyxiation, also known as asphyxiophilia, is a dangerous practice that involves voluntarily depriving oneself of oxygen to intensify sexual sensations, often with the aim of achieving a more intense orgasm.
Erotic Humiliation — Erotic humiliation is a striptease of the soul. The goal is not to hurt you, but to free you from the weight of your own dignity.
Escort Boy — An escort boy is a man who offers paid companionship and/or sexual services. These services can range from simple presence to more intense practices, often negotiated via gay chat platforms or gay apps.
Escort in France — In France, an escort is an individual who offers paid companionship services. These services can range from social accompaniment to more intimate interactions, always within the framework of a mutual and consensual agreement.
Eunuch Fetish and Nullification (Nullo) — This fantasy is one of the deepest and most disturbing. It is the desire to transcend gender by getting rid of what biologically defines it.
Exhibition Hookup — An exhibition plan is for those who like to show themselves. The goal is to exhibit oneself naked, or in the middle of a sexual act, in front of other people.
Extreme Bodily Fluid Play — Here, we cross the last taboos of intimacy, where even the most open-minded turn back. We are no longer talking about pee or semen, but the ultimate bodily excretions.
Extreme Body Modification — Here, we are no longer talking about tattoos or piercings. We enter the realm of permanent possession, of the indelible mark.
Extreme Dilatation — Extreme Dilatation refers to the intentional and progressive widening of a bodily opening, often anal or vaginal, well beyond its usual limits.
Extreme Sex Plan Encounter — An extreme plan refers to a sexual encounter or intimate exploration that pushes conventional boundaries, often characterized by high physical or psychological intensity.

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Face Sitting — Face sitting is simple: sitting on your partner's face. It's a common practice in domination/submission games.
Facefuck — Facefuck is an intense and often extreme sexual practice that involves the deep insertion of the penis into a person's mouth and throat, to the point of covering a large part of their face.
Fear Play — Fear Play, or "game of fear," is the most powerful aphrodisiac. It's not about scaring you; it's about making you believe you are scared, triggering the primal danger response in your body, while knowing, deep down, that you are perfectly safe.
Fear Play (with Real Threat) — There is a type of fear-based sex where the threat is simulated, and everyone knows it's a game.
Feederism — Feederism is a power dynamic centered on food and body transformation. It is a form of possession where excitement arises from the act of feeding or being fed, with the goal of consensual weight gain.
Felching — Felching is the art of not wasting a single drop. It is a sexual practice that involves retrieving semen from an orifice to eat it or transfer it elsewhere.
Fellatio (Téter) — Téter a cock is much more than just sucking it; it's an art that combines indulgence and endurance.
Felshing — Felshing is primarily an oral sexual practice: it involves licking the cum that comes out of the ass, or exchanging sperm mouth to mouth.
Femme — The term "femme" (sometimes spelled "fem") is used in the LGBTQ+ community, particularly by lesbians and queer individuals, to describe a person who presents or embodies traits, manners, or a gender expression traditionally associated with femininity.
Femmis and Ladyck — We're going to talk about 'femmis' or 'ladyck'. This is what some trans women or non-binary individuals call their penis after it has changed due to hormones.
Fetish Plan — A Fetish Plan is a hookup centered around a specific kink. It's a meeting where the objective is defined in advance, whether it's a scenario, a practice, or a particular obsession.
Figging — Figging is an internal fire. It's the introduction of a piece of ginger into your ass, not for penetration, but for the burning sensation.
Financial Domination (FinDom) — Financial Domination is the most vicious form of control. You don't give your body; you give your autonomy, your purchasing power, your security.
Financial Slave (Moneyslave) — Being a financial slave has nothing to do with being a "sugar daddy". A sugar daddy exchanges money for company.
Finsexual — The term "Finsexual" is a sexual orientation that describes a person attracted to individuals who identify as women or who present femininity, regardless of their sex assigned at birth.
Fire Play — Fire Play is a pact with instinct. It's the pleasure of submitting your most primal fear to your Master's will.
Fist Fucking (FF) — Fist fucking is the art of introducing the hand, or even the forearm, into a partner's anus or vagina.
Flipfuck (Flip) — Flipfuck is simple: it's the act of exchanging roles during the same sexual encounter. There is no longer a defined dominant or submissive, no assigned top or bottom.
Flogger BDSM — The flogger is much more than a simple whip; it is an instrument of sensual percussion and psychological punishment.
Foot Fetish — "Foot fetish" is the fetishism of feet. It is a sexual attraction where feet (those of the partner or one's own) are a major source of excitement.
Foot Fucking — Foot fucking is an extreme sexual practice that involves inserting a foot into the anus. It is a form of anal dilation even rarer and more difficult than fist fucking.
Footjob — A "footjob" (literally "handjob with feet") is the act of masturbating a partner's penis with one's feet.
Forced Feminization — Forced Feminization is an assassination. That of the man you once were.
Forced Orgasm Definition — Forced Orgasm is the theft of your intimacy. It is proof that even your most personal pleasure does not belong to you.
Frenzy — Frenzy is the moment when control gives way to pure instinct, where the dominant and the submissive are nothing more than two animals caught in a storm of desire.
Furry — Let's be honest, from the outside, the furry community looks like a den of absolute weirdos.

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G (GHB/GBL) — "G" means GHB and GBL, two depressants with almost identical effects, widely used in chemsex; the gap between the dose that works and the one that knocks you out or into a coma is small, and mixing with alcohol is the leading cause of comas.
G-spot & P-spot Vibrator — In the world of sex toys and sexuality, precision of language is essential for understanding tools and practices.
Gag (Bâillon) — The gag is an instrument designed to obstruct the mouth and prevent speech, but its function in BDSM goes far beyond simple silence.
Gagging in BDSM — A "gag" is an object used in BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sado-Masochism) practices to obstruct a partner's mouth, preventing them from speaking and limiting their actions.
Gang Bang — A "gang bang" is a sexual experience where one person is the center of sexual attention from multiple partners simultaneously or successively.
Gaslighting — Gaslighting, in this game, is the most extreme form of possession. It is a consensual act where you give your Master not only your body, but also your reality.
Gaver — In the bareback lexicon, "gaver" is a raw term to describe the act of ejaculating abundantly inside one's partner, whether anally ("gaver un cul" - to stuff an ass) or orally ("gaver une gorge" - to stuff a throat).
Gay — The term "gay" is primarily used to describe a person, usually a man, who is sexually and/or emotionally attracted to people of the same sex.
Gay Arab (Rebeu Gay) — The term "Rebeu" is a verlan (back-slang) of the word "beur," referring to people of North African origin.
Gay Cruising Spots — "Going to a cruising spot" means going to a public place known to be a meeting point for sexual encounters between men, often anonymous and quick.
Gay Cruising Spots — A gay cruising spot is not a tea room. It's a place where you go to fuck, period.
Gay Gangbang — A "Gay Gangbang" is a sexual orgy between men. It's a casual sexual encounter involving more than two people, ranging from three participants (a "threesome") to dozens, or even hundreds of people in more organized contexts (club backrooms, saunas, private parties, etc.).
Gay Plan — Let's forget the detours and endless conversations. A true gay plan isn't a romantic quest; it's a mission.
Gay Touze — A diminutive of "partouze," meaning a group sex plan. It's not uncommon to see the term "touze à jus," a pretty term to describe a real sperm orgy!
Gender and Sexuality — Forget what you were taught in school. Gender is not what you have between your legs.
Gender Dysphoria — Gender dysphoria is much more than simple discomfort. It is a profound dissonance, sometimes painful, between your identity and what society or your own body reflects back to you.
Gender Euphoria — Gender euphoria is the sun breaking through the clouds of dysphoria. It is that feeling of pure joy, absolute comfort, of "rightness" that overwhelms you when your gender identity is recognized and affirmed.
Gender Expression — Gender expression refers to how a person presents their gender to the outside world through their behavior, clothing, hairstyle, voice, mannerisms, and other attributes.
Gender Fluid — The term "gender fluid" describes a person whose gender identity is not fixed and can change over time.
Gender Identity — Gender identity is the internal and profound sense of being a man, a woman, both, neither, or another gender.
Gender Non-conforming — The term "Gender Non-conforming" describes individuals whose gender expression does not align with societal expectations or norms traditionally associated with their sex assigned at birth.
Gender-apathetic — The term "gender-apathetic" describes a person who feels apathy or indifference towards their own gender.
Gender/Orientation Conversion — This fantasy is a dark and twisted parody of conversion therapies. It is a scenario where a Dominant pretends to "force" a submissive to change their sexual orientation or fundamental gender identity through extreme means.
Genderflux — The term "Genderflux" describes a non-binary gender identity characterized by a fluctuation in the intensity of one's feeling of gender over time.
Genderqueer — The term "Genderqueer" is an umbrella term that encompasses a wide variety of gender identities that do not conform to traditional binary categories of male or female.
Getting Pregnant — At the heart of the most extreme bareback culture, the expression "to impregnate" or "getting pregnant" is a code.
Ghosting — Ghosting is the sudden death of a casual hookup. You're talking to a guy, the chemistry is good, you exchange photos, maybe you've even met.
Gloryhole — A gloryhole is an altar dedicated to anonymity. It's a simple hole in a wall, but it's also a magical boundary that separates identity from desire.
Golden Shower — Golden showers are for urine fetish enthusiasts during uro plans. It is simply the act of being urinated on, having a urine shower.
Grayromantic — The term "Grayromantic" (or "gray-romantic") refers to an experience of romantic attraction that lies in a nuanced zone, somewhere between complete aromanticism (the absence of romantic attraction) and alloromanticism (the regular and intense experience of romantic attraction).
Graysexuality — The term "Graysexual" (or "gray-sexual") describes an experience of sexual attraction that lies in a nuanced zone, somewhere between complete asexuality (the absence of sexual attraction) and allosexuality (the regular and intense experience of sexual attraction).
Grindr — Grindr: more than just a dating app for gay and bi men, it has become the hookup supermarket.
Gynosexuality / Gynophilia — The term Gynosexual, or Gynophilic, describes a person who is primarily attracted to femininity, regardless of the person's own gender.

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Handjob Play — Handjob play is a casual sexual encounter without penetration or fellatio. It's often a practice for beginners, who are taking their first steps into sex.
Hard Plan — A "hard plan" is the opposite of a soft plan. It's a sexual encounter that goes off the beaten path, including practices considered "extreme" or "unconventional".
Harm Reduction — Harm reduction is a public health approach that starts from what people actually do, without judgement, to limit the damage: sterile equipment, dosing, PrEP, testing, support, rather than demanding abstinence.
Harness — The harness is much more than a simple assembly of straps. It is a framework of leather or fabric that both constrains and highlights the body, a second skin that transforms the wearer into an object of desire and control.
Hazing Play — Hazing play is a fantasy of submission and humiliation. The principle is to be hazed by one or more guys, like in the army or in prestigious schools.
Headspace — Headspace is a trance state, a disconnection from the outside world where you are nothing more than a floating consciousness, entirely focused on your fuck buddy.
Heautosexuality — Heautosexuality is a form of attraction that can seem, at first glance, a little confusing.
Hetero-curious — A hetero-curious person is a guy who identifies as straight but is tempted by an experience with another man.
Hetero-friendly — The expression 'hetero-friendly' refers to a gay venue or event that is open and welcoming to heterosexuals.
Heteronormativity — Heteronormativity is the direct application of normativity to sexuality. It is a system of thought that postulates heterosexuality as the norm, the default setting for human beings.
High Plan & Chemsex — A high plan, or 'chemsex,' is sex under the influence of drugs. The goal is to disinhibit, increase sensations, and prolong pleasure for hours, even days.
Hood — The hood is an instrument of depersonalization and sensory deprivation. Completely enveloping the head, it erases the identity of the wearer, transforming them into an anonymous object, a blank canvas onto which the dominant can project their desires.
Hot-botting — Hot-botting is an extremely risky and marginal injection practice, even within the chemsex community.
Human Ashtray (Cendrier Humain) — The Human Ashtray is the first level of objectification. Your mouth, designed for pleasure, for sucking and swallowing, is redefined.
Human Furniture — Becoming a piece of furniture is to achieve a state of total submission and silence. You are no longer an animal that feels; you are an object that supports.
Humiliation (Bareback) — Humiliation is a stripping of the soul. Its purpose is not to hurt you, but to dissolve your pride, your ego, until only the raw and animal need to be used remains.
Humiliation (Degradation) — Humiliation is not an insult; it is a purification. It is the art of stripping you of everything you believe yourself to be – your name, your pride, your ego – to reveal only your most essential truth: you are a thing, a body, a hole.
Hunter / Huntress (BDSM) — For some Dominants, possession is merely the end of the story. The true pleasure lies in the chase.

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Idemromanticism — Idemromanticism is a romantic orientation that can seem complex at first glance, as it touches on how a person perceives and differentiates romantic attraction from platonic attraction.
Incest Plan — An Incest Plan is a role-play or "dirty talk" scenario that simulates an incestuous relationship.
Inflation and Cumflation — The inflation fetish is based on a simple and visually powerful idea: the fantasy of seeing a human body, or one of its parts, fill and inflate like a balloon.
Inseminate — WARNING: This text discusses extreme and very high-danger sexual practices, including the voluntary transmission of STIs (seroconversion).
Institutional Play (Role Play) — Institutional play is one of the most powerful power fantasies, as it does not rely on a relationship to be built, but on pre-existing and socially recognized authority.
Instrumentalization of the Unconsenting — The principle is simple: using a normal person, who is unaware of anything, as a prop in your game.
Intersex — The term Intersex refers to a complex and natural biological reality concerning individuals born with sexual characteristics (chromosomes, gonads, hormones, internal and external genitalia) that do not fit the typical binary definitions of "male" or "female." For you, understanding intersexuality means recognizing the
Ipsogender — The term Ipsogender is a gender identity that may seem, at first glance, redundant or even paradoxical.
IRL Plan Definition — An "IRL plan" (In Real Life) is a physical, face-to-face sexual encounter. It is the direct opposite of a "cam plan" or cybersex.

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Jizzing (Bareback) — In the vocabulary of bareback, "jizzing" is a direct and raw synonym for "ejaculating". One "jizzes juice" or "yop" to say that one ejaculates their semen.
Juice Vat (Bareback) — In bareback slang, a "juice vat" is a metaphorical expression to describe an anus (or sometimes a mouth) perceived as a receptacle intended to be filled with sperm, often by multiple partners, and to retain it.

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Kaïra (French Slang) — The kaïra is the fantasy of the suburban guy, the tough, the thug. It's a stereotype, of course, but one that excites many gay men.
Keyholder — Imagine giving up the most primary control there is: that of your own orgasm. Imagine locking your dick in a cage and giving the key to someone else.
Kidnapping Play Definition — This is CNC taken to its extreme, an action movie where you are the consenting victim. The fantasy is to be literally kidnapped: snatched from the street, a bag over your head, hands tied, thrown into the back of a car.
Knifeplay — Knifeplay is the ultimate thrill. The cold blade gliding over your warm skin is the promise of absolute trust and controlled danger.

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La Plombe — We're going to talk about a somewhat heavy topic, but we need to talk about it directly: "la plombe."
Lascar — In gay slang and on dating sites, the term "lascar" is used to describe a stereotype of a virile young man, often perceived as coming from "cités" (housing projects) or working-class neighborhoods.
Leather Family (BDSM) — A Leather Family has nothing to do with blood ties. It's a pack one chooses, a clan forged in leather, sweat, and devotion beyond understanding.
Leather Pride Flag — The Leather Pride Flag is a symbol of the leather community, created by Tony DeBlase in 1989.
Lesbian — The term Lesbian refers to a woman who is attracted to other women. It is an identity that is both simple in its definition and rich with millions of individual experiences, love stories, struggles, and celebrations.
LGBTQ+ Ally — An "Ally" is a person who supports and respects members of the LGBTQ+ community. This term refers to an ally, someone who does not belong to the LGBTQ+ community but actively commits to defending the rights and promoting the inclusion of LGBTQ+ individuals.
LGBTQIA+ — LGBTQIA+... this acronym, sometimes lengthy, refers to Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans, Queer, Intersex, Asexual, or Aromantic individuals.
Libertinism and Gay Libertine — A libertine is a person who doesn't bother too much with the conventions and dogmas that have been drilled into us since childhood: the libertine will not be monogamous, they will not have an exclusive partner, they will go where good hookups are to be had!
Licking Plan — A "licking plan" is a sexual encounter primarily focused on tongue play. It is considered a "soft" practice, generally excluding penetration.
Lithromanticism & Lithsexualism — The world of identities and orientations is vast and nuanced. Among this richness, you may encounter the terms Lithromantic and Lithsexual, sometimes also called Akoiromantic and Akoisexual.
Lope (Gay Slang) — In gay and bareback slang, a "lope" is a term that has evolved. Originally pejorative (a cruder version of "faggot" or "effeminate"), it now refers to a passive man who defines himself by almost total sexual availability and a search for raw, direct, and often multiple encounters.

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Master/Mistress BDSM — "Master" or "Mistress" are not just words. They are anchors, constant reminders of the power dynamic.
Master/slave (M/s) — The Master/slave relationship is the embodiment of TPE. These are not roles, but identities.
Maverique — Within the vast and wonderful spectrum of gender identities, you might encounter the term "Maverique." For many, this identity offers a precise and liberating description of their inner experience of gender, going beyond traditional binary categories and even some more common non-binary definitions.
Medical Play BDSM — Medical Play is a violation of the deepest intimacy. You are no longer a partner; you are a patient, a body to be examined, a case to be studied.
Medical Visit Plan Definition — The medical visit plan is a classic and widespread fantasy, a scenario plan where partners take on the roles of doctor and patient.
Melangism — Melangism is a sexual practice originating from the libertarian scene that lies between "cuddling" and full swinging.
Mental Conditioning — Conditioning is the art of engraving one's will directly into your flesh, bypassing your conscious mind.
Meth Mites (Formication) — Meth Mites, or formication in medical terms, is a terrifying tactile hallucination that can occur during the consumption of methamphetamine (crystal meth) or other stimulants.
Milking (Traire) — When you see the verb traire (to milk) in chat, it will obviously not be about dairy products, even if there will be pure sensations.
Mindfuck — Mindfuck is the art of demolishing your mind to better possess your body. It is an intense psychological manipulation that blurs the lines between true and false, pleasure and pain, leaving you in a state of total confusion where the only stable thing, the only point of reference, is that you are facing a very dangerou
Minet, Twink, Crevette, Teen — These terms all refer to a category of young, thin, and hairless men. It's an ideal of beauty for many gay men, but each word has its nuance, often pejorative.
Minsexuality — In the complex and ever-evolving spectrum of sexual identities, you might encounter the term "minsexual." This is an orientation that, for those who identify with it, describes an attraction to individuals who present masculine characteristics, regardless of their assigned gender at birth or their gender identity.
Mise à Dispo — "Mettre à dispo" or "mise à dispo" (literally "to make available" or "made available") is an expression meaning that a passive person makes themselves available to one or more active partners.
Misgendering — Misgendering someone is refusing to see them as they are. It is the act of assigning them a gender that is not their own, most often by using the wrong pronoun or incorrect agreements.
Monogamy of Power — The Monogamy of Power is the central dogma of your submission. Your Master can fuck whoever he wants, his body is free.
Monosexuality — In the vast and complex universe of sexual orientations, you will encounter the term "Monosexuality".
Morinom and Deadname — The "morinom" or "deadname" (literally "dead name" in English) is the first name assigned to you at birth but which you have decided no longer to use, because it does not correspond to your gender identity.
Muscling and Overamping — In the world of chemsex, the pursuit of the fastest and most intense effect leads to increasingly risky consumption methods.

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Natural Lubricant (Sperm) — In the context of bareback and "juice play," the term "natural lubricant" is a euphemism for sperm.
Nebularomanticism — In the kaleidoscope of romantic identities, you might one day come across the term "Nebularomantic".
Need to Serve — The "Need to Serve" is a hunger, a thirst that can only be quenched by total surrender to another.
Needle Play (BDSM) — Needle Play is a meditation through pain. Each sterile needle that pierces the surface of your skin is a point of intense concentration, a prick that anchors your mind in your body and empties it of all other thoughts.
Neutrois — The term "Neutrois" refers to a non-binary gender identity where a person identifies as having a neutral gender, or as having no gender at all (agender).
No-Taboo and Taboo-Free Plans — A no-taboo plan, also known as a sans tabou in french slang, refers to a sexual encounter where participants engage in practices without any restrictions or inhibitions.
Nokpote — "Nokpote" and all its derivatives like "nocapote" "nocapot" "nokapot" (that's a lot of juice!).
Non-Binary — The term "non-binary" is an umbrella term that describes gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine.
Non-Binary Person (NB) — If gender were a bar, there would be a "men's" corner and a "women's" corner. A non-binary person is someone who decided to kick over the stools and dance in the middle, or sit on the counter, or even go outside for a smoke because this binary distinction doesn't interest them.
Normativity — Normativity is the invisible framework that governs our lives. It's the idea that there is a "normal" way to live, think, and be, and that this normality is self-evident, that it is natural.
Nose Hook (Crochet de Nez) — The nose hook is a bondage accessory inserted into the nostrils, applying pressure to the septum.
Novosexual — The term "Novosexual" describes a unique sexual orientation where a person's attraction is intrinsically linked to their own gender, which can be fluid or changing.

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Obedience (Obéissance) — Obedience is not a suggestion; it is your only reality. It is the fundamental principle of your existence as a slave.
Objectification — Objectification is a form of liberation. It is the act of stripping yourself of your humanity to become an object, a mere thing at the service of your Master's pleasure.
Odor Play — An "odor play" is a fetish centered on body odors. We're not talking about your Dior perfume, but raw, animalistic, "male" smells: sweat, urine, sperm, feet...
Omegaverse (A/B/O) — Forget the gender you know. In the Omegaverse, biology rules, and it's brutal.
Omnisexuality — The term "Omnisexual" describes a sexual orientation where a person is attracted to individuals of all genders and gender expressions.
OnlyFans and MYM — OnlyFans and its French equivalent MYM are subscription content platforms that have redefined the economy of desire.
Orgasm Control (BDSM) — Orgasm control is the purest affirmation of one's power over you. Your most intimate pleasure does not belong to you.
Otherkin and Therian — Let's be honest, this is one of the most unusual things you'll find. An Otherkin or a Therian is a person who, deep down, does not identify as human.
Out — Being "out" is the opposite approach to being stealth. It is the choice, for a trans person, to live openly, without hiding who they are.
Outing and Outer — Outing, or the act of "outing" someone, is one of the most violent and destructive acts there is.
Ownership Mark — An ownership mark is a physical and often permanent symbol intended to signify a power and possession relationship between a dominant and a submissive.

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Pain Play — Pain Play is a conversation. Every hit, every bite, every pressure is a question.
Panards — "Panards" is a slang word, a familiar and somewhat crude term for feet. There is no specific practice associated with this word; it's simply another way of referring to feet, often with a less "precious" or aesthetic connotation.
Pansexuality — The term "Pansexual" describes a sexual orientation where a person is attracted to others, regardless of their sex or gender identity.
Party and Play (PnP) — PnP, or Party and Play, is not just a casual hookup; it's a contract, an immersion. It's the conscious decision to mix chemicals ("chems") and sex to create an experience that transcends the limits of body and time.
Paypig (MoneySlave) Definition — A Paypig, or paying pig, is a specific and often more degrading form of financial slave. They do not merely serve with their money; they find their excitement in the humiliation of being treated as a walking wallet, a brainless ATM whose sole function is to finance the lifestyle and whims of their Mistress or Master.
PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis) — PEP (post-exposure prophylaxis, TPE in French) is emergency anti-HIV treatment best started within 4 hours and no later than 48 hours after exposure, then taken for one month.
Pet — Becoming a "Pet" means consenting to an effacement. You are no longer a person playing a role; you become a creature whose existence is entirely defined by its Owner.
Ping Pong Ball Gag — The ping pong ball gag is a type of improvised gag that, as its name suggests, uses one or more ping pong balls to fill the submissive's mouth.
Piss Plan (Piss Play) — The term "piss plan", very common in the jargon of french gay ads and french chats, refers to a meeting (a "plan") whose main purpose is urophilia, also known as "golden shower" or "watersports".
Piss Play (Urolagnia) — Piss Play, or uro, is not a simple perversion. It is the baptism of your downfall, the rite that washes away your dignity to consecrate you as a thing.
Plan Chantier, Cave, Foyer — The plan chantier, cave ou foyer (French gay slang for "construction site, cellar, or hostel plan") is a very common fantasy in the gay community.
Plan Jus Definition — The term "plan jus" is a rich and polysemous expression that holds a particular place in the lexicon of gay sexuality.
Plan Z and Zoophilia — A Plan Z, or Zoo Plan, is a zoophilic plan. This means a plan that involves animals.
Polyamory — The term "Polyamory" (or polyamorie) refers to the practice, desire, or orientation towards ethical, honest, and consensual non-monogamous relationships.
Polysexuality — You may encounter the term "Polysexual". Imagine for a moment that your heart is not limited to loving just one flower, or even two, but is capable of marveling at the beauty of several different species.
Pomosexuality — Pomosexuality is a term that refers to a sexual orientation characterized by the refusal or non-identification with traditional or existing sexual orientation labels.
Pomper and Pompeur — The term "pomper" refers to an intense and energetic form of oral sex, distinctly different from "suckling" or "nursing".
Pony Boy — A pony boy is a young gay man (twink) who is attracted to older men, then called daddies. It is essentially the male equivalent of a cougar.
Pony Play Definition — Pony Play is a discipline, a transformation. It involves sculpting one's body through effort to become a powerful and docile mount.
Poppers — Poppers are inhaled volatile nitrites that cause muscle relaxation, a racing heart and a rush of heat within seconds; they're dangerous if swallowed, on skin and eyes, with alcohol and with erection drugs.
Possession — Possession is not a feeling, it's a fact. It's the moment when the concept of "you" ceases to exist, to be replaced by the concept of "theirs".
Posture (BDSM) — Posture is the silent prayer of the submissive. It is the discipline of your body which, at every moment, must proclaim your status: available, offered, waiting to be used, your ass slightly arched even when no one is looking.
Poz — In french gay jargon, when you hear "poz", "S+", or simply "positive", it means only one thing: the person is HIV positive.
Poz Only — "Poz Only" is not a category; it's a declaration of pride. It's a private club, a sanctuary where HIV-positive individuals have decided to create their own rules for pleasure.
Poz Parties — Poz Parties (Poz Party / Poz-Only)
PrEP — PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) is preventive treatment taken by an HIV-negative person to avoid getting HIV; in France any doctor can prescribe it and it is 100% reimbursed.
Primal Play — Primal Play is a radical exploration of the deepest and oldest layers of the human psyche.
Prince Albert (PA) — The Prince Albert, or PA, is a male genital piercing that goes through the glans of the penis.
Property (BDSM) — The word "Property" is the final destination. It signifies the end of the person and the beginning of the thing.
Puppy Play Definition — Puppy Play is a return to instinct. It is the desire to leave human complexity behind to embrace a simpler, purer form of devotion.

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Queer — The word "Queer" has a rich and complex history. Long used in the English-speaking world as a homophobic slur, it was gradually reappropriated starting in the 1980s.
Quoiromantic and Quoisexual — The terms "quoiromantic" and "quoisexual" (from the English word "quoi" pronounced /kwɑ/) refer to people for whom the classic distinction between friendship, romantic, and/or sexual attraction is blurred, incomprehensible, or irrelevant.

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Rangers (Rangeos) — Rangeos are simply rangers, a pair of military boots that clearly mark virility and very often domination.
Rape Play Definition — Rape Play is the most intense form of CNC, a simulation based on such total trust that it is terrifying.
Raw Sex — "Raw Sex" is simply another word for bareback, but a word that explains everything. The word "raw" in English means "uncooked." Think of raw meat, something unprocessed, crude.
Real Plan Definition — A "real plan" is a physical, face-to-face sexual encounter. It is the direct opposite of a "cam plan" or cybersex.
Relapse — Relapse, in the context of chemsex, is much more than simply resuming drug use. It's a return to a set of high-risk behaviors, a dive back into the specific combination of sex and drugs after attempting to stop.
Riding Crop (Cravache) Definition and Usage — The riding crop, or "cravache" in French, is a short, rigid instrument traditionally used in equestrianism to guide the horse.
Rigger — A Rigger is an architect of desire. They do not use ropes simply to tie, but to prepare a body, to make it available.
Rituals — Rituals are the slave's routine, the mechanism that transforms submission into a second nature.
Roleplay — Roleplay is a gateway out of reality, a consensual escape where one allows themselves to become someone else for a few hours.
Rope Bunny — A Rope Bunny is a body that calls for rope. It's an insatiable hunger for the sensation of fiber that constrains, binds, and draws paths on the skin.
Rosebud — The rosebud is much more than a simple accessory; it's a statement, an intimate jewel designed to magnify the anus.
Rotting an Ass — Rotting an ass is the ultimate fantasy of defilement. It's the idea of taking possession of a hole, of filling it with one's fluids, of marking it with one's imprint.

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S+, S- and S? — « S+ », « S- », « S? » : These are not mathematical or chemical formulas.
Sadomasochism (S&M) — S&M: SadomasochismSadomasochism is not a story of violence. It is a sacred alchemy.
Safe and Unsafe — "Safe" and "unsafe" are English terms used in the gay and bareback communities to discuss sexual practices and the level of risk accepted by each individual.
Same-Gender Loving (SGL) — Have you ever heard of 'Same-Gender Loving' or SGL? It's an expression with a rich and important history, especially within the African-American community.
Sapiosexuality — So, does 'sapiosexual' ring a bell? It's a word that appeared quite recently and describes a very particular form of attraction.
Sapphic — Do you know the word 'sapphic'? It is truly magnificent and rich in history.
Scat Play (Coprophilia) — This is the last taboo, the ultimate frontier of submission. Scat Play is not about dirtiness, but about absolute devotion.
Scenario Plan Definition — A scenario plan is a sexual encounter where participants engage in a predefined role-play, adding a narrative and fantasy dimension to the act.
Seeding (Fécondation) — Don't be fooled by the clinical word. In the context of bareback and cum play, "seeding" or "fécondation" is a raw and direct way of talking about the act of cumming inside one's partner, specifically in the anus.
Sensation Play — Sensation play is a system overload. It's a concerted attack on your skin, using the heat of wax, the cold of ice, the caress of a feather, or the prickle of a brush to blur all your bearings.
Sensory Deprivation — Sensory deprivation is the creation of a void to better fill it. With a blindfold over your eyes, earplugs in your ears, you are plunged into a void where the outside world no longer exists.
Service Submissive — Service Submissive
Sesh (Session) — A sesh has no start or end time. It's a dive into a time warp where the only thing that exists is getting high and having sex, as it can last a night, a weekend, sometimes longer.
Sex — We have long been told that sex was a binary affair: XX for girls, XY for boys, period. However, the reality is much more complex and exciting than that.
Sex Friend — A sex friend is a friend with whom you have sex. It's a hybrid relationship, halfway between a fuck buddy and a couple.
Sexting — Sexting is a theater of desire in the palm of your hand. It's the art of building unbearable sexual tension solely with words, photos, and videos.
Sextoy — A paddle is an impact play instrument, generally composed of a flat, wide surface attached to a handle.
Sexual Abattage — The term "abattage" (slaughter/culling) refers to a sexual practice where a person (often passive, called "lope" or "slut" in this context) has sex with multiple partners at a very rapid pace, with minimal interaction and foreplay.
Sexual Characteristics — When we talk about "sex," most people immediately think of external genitalia. But biological reality is a much richer and more complex tapestry.
Sexual Suspension Definition — Suspension is a practice where a person is lifted off the ground, often using ropes, for sexual activities.
Shaving Play — Shaving play, yes it exists! It's a fetish that's not as rare as it seems.
Shemale — Shemale is the English word for "transsexuals." This word is composed of "she" and "male" to signify that it refers to the "3rd sex." However, "Shemale" is a term primarily used in the porn industry to refer to a transgender woman who has not undergone sex reassignment surgery and therefore still has a penis.
Shibari — Shibari is the art of possession by rope. It's not just about tying, but about reshaping a body, constraining it to reveal its true nature: that of an art object.
Side-by-Side (Côte à côtisme) — "Side-by-side", or "côte à côtisme", is a practice in the libertarian scene where two or more couples have sexual relations in the same room, but without exchanging partners.
Single Tail Whip — A single tail whip is a type of whip composed of a handle and a single long, flexible thong, usually made of leather.
Sket Boy — The "sket boy" is an archetype and a fantasy that lingers in the gay imagination: he is the kind of guy who ticks every box of the French "lascar" or "kaïra" (the street-smart estate lad), and who, for one reason or another, fuels the fantasies of part of the community.
Sket Plan — Sket and cho7 plans have recently become increasingly popular, but not necessarily in relation to "jus" (cum).
Skoliosexual Definition — Today, let's talk about a word you may have come across but which is less and less used: 'skoliosexual'.
Slam — Slamming means injecting drugs (cathinones, methamphetamine…) intravenously during sex; it's the riskiest form of chemsex for dependence, overdose, veins, and HIV and hepatitis C transmission.
Slave — If submission is a contract, slavery is an act of ownership. A slave is no longer a person playing a role.
Sling — A sling is an ingenious device designed to "suspend" a passive partner, thus offering optimal and comfortable access for sexual intercourse.
SM Plan — An "SM Plan" is a sexual encounter (a "hookup") focused on sadomasochistic (SM) practices and more broadly on BDSM.
Sniffer — In gay slang, a sniffer is not someone who snorts coke or other drugs through their nose, but rather a fetishist of body odors.
Snowballing — Snowballing is a sexual practice that involves collecting semen in one's mouth after fellatio, then transferring it to a partner's mouth through a kiss.
Soft Sex Plan — A "soft plan" is often perceived as a "vanilla" sexual encounter, relaxed, without practices considered "extreme".
Spanking — Spanking is simply a spank, which is not necessarily linked to BDSM, although there will always be a dominant and a submissive.
Spectrasexual Definition — Have you ever heard the word 'spectrasexual'? It's a term that helps us understand the incredible diversity of human attraction, beyond more well-known labels like bisexual or pansexual.
Sperm Dose — Let's continue decoding sexual slang with a word you've probably seen before: "dose."
Sperm Fetishism — Sperm fetishism goes far beyond a simple preference for barebacking; it's a fascination with the substance itself, an obsession with its warmth, taste, texture, and smell.
Sperm Shower — A sperm shower is not just a simple facial ejaculation. It is an act of total profanation, a ritual of submission where you become a living canvas upon which the pleasure of others is unleashed.
Spider Gag (Bâillon Araignée) — La barre d'écartement, ou "spreader bar", est un dispositif de bondage utilisé pour maintenir les membres d'un soumis écartés.
Spit Play (Jeux de salive) — Saliva is the most primary of fluids, the simplest mark of possession. It's not an act of cleanliness, but of territory.
Spreader Bar (Barre d'écartement) — The spreader bar, or "barre d'écartement", is a bondage device used to keep a submissive's limbs spread apart.
SRS (Sex Reassignment Surgery) — SRS, or "Sex Reassignment Surgery", is the term often heard when talking about surgical operations as part of a gender transition.
SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual) — SSC, for Safe, Sane, and Consensual (or Sûr, Sain et Consensuel in French), is not just a trendy acronym.
SSR — Acronym for « Safer Sex ». So, how to enjoy Safer Sex plans?
St. Andrew's Cross (BDSM) — The St. Andrew's Cross is not just a dungeon furniture; it's a sacrificial altar.
Stalking and Stalker Definition — Stalking is harassment and a perversion of attention. A stalker can therefore be translated as a harasser.
Stealth Definition — The term "stealth", borrowed from English, evokes stealth, the act of moving without being seen, like a submarine navigating in deep waters.
Stealthing Definition — Stealthing means deliberately removing or damaging the condom during sex without the partner's agreement; it's a breach of consent that exposes the partner to HIV and STIs and calls for quick action (PEP within 48 hours, testing, the option of reporting it).
Strap-on Dildo Definition — The gode-ceinture, better known by its English name "strap-on dildo", is a sextoy attached to a harness worn around the hips and waist.
Struggle Fuck — "Struggle Fuck" is a capture fantasy. It's a scenario where the struggle is the most powerful aphrodisiac.
Sub-frenzy Definition — "Sub-frenzy" is a short-circuit (frenzy). It's the moment, in the heart of an intense session, where your brain lets go and your body takes over.
Submissive — Submissive
Subspace and Slave Space Definition — Subspace is silence. It's an altered state, a deep and peaceful trance you reach after a particularly intense session.
Sugar Daddy Definition — A Sugar Daddy is typically an older, financially affluent man who provides material support (money, gifts, travel) to a younger person, often called a "Sugar Baby," in exchange for companionship, affection, or intimate relations.
Surrender — Surrender is not a defeat; it's the moment you stop fighting against your own nature and consciously offer the keys to your soul.
Swallower Definition — A swallower is a person who, during a blowjob plan or fellatio, chooses to ingest semen. This term is often used in the context of soft plans where the focus is on oral pleasure without penetration.
Swinging — Swinging isn't just for heterosexuals. Gay couples also enjoy exchanging partners.
Switch / Switchy Definition — Being a Switch means refusing to choose a side. It's having within oneself both the hunger of the predator and the thirst of the prey.

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Taboo-Free Experiences — A taboo-free experience refers to an exploration of desires and fantasies where all conventional limits are abolished.
TBC / DTC — These two acronyms are remnants of the online chat and SMS era. They are less used today, but you might still come across them.
Temperature Play Definition — Temperature play is a direct attack on your senses, as it is the art of shocking and awakening the skin with extremes.
TENS Unit Definition — A TENS Unit (Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation) is a medical device repurposed for erotic electrostimulation, sending electrical impulses via electrodes to create sensations ranging from tingling to intense muscle contraction.
Tentacle Porn — Tentacle Porn is a fantasy of total submersion originating from Japanese popular culture and well-known in the West through "hentai." It features creatures that not only penetrate but also envelop, entwine, and invade.
The Juice — The "juice." A simple, almost childish word, but in gay slang, it carries a whole different flavor.
The Merit in Submission — Here, submission is not a gift. It's a trophy.
The Title in BDSM — The "Title" is the name of your god. Whether it's Master, Sir, Daddy, or any other agreed-upon term, it's the word that crystallizes the relationship.
Tickle Torture Definition — Tickle torture is a devastating psychological weapon. It bypasses all your defenses to attack you where you are most vulnerable: your own reflexes.
Tits Work — Tits work, or nipple stimulation, involves stimulating the nipples. You can pinch them, nibble them, twist them...
TN Requin — TN Requin (or simply "TN") are an iconic model of Nike sneakers (Air Max Plus model). In certain gay subcultures, and more particularly in the context of "sket play" (sneaker fetishism), these shoes have become a major fetish object.
Token in Sex Vocabulary Definition — In vocabulary, a token is a symbolic object (collar, bracelet, ring) worn by the submissive to signify their belonging and relationship with a dominant, visible to all.
Top (Bareback) — In the bareback scene, when a guy calls himself "top", and especially "true top" or "100% top", it means one thing and one thing only: he never gets penetrated.
Topping from the Bottom Definition — "Topping from the Bottom" is the most subtle art of submission. It's the secret game of the submissive who, while appearing to submit, is actually the grand architect of the scene.
Toric Definition — This term is used by and for non-binary people. As a reminder, a non-binary person is someone who identifies as neither a man nor a woman.
Total Encasement — Total Encasement is the ultimate experience of objectification. It's not about being locked in a cage or a room, but about seeing one's own body become the prison.
Total Power Exchange (TPE) — TPE is not a Saturday night game. It's a life.
Tournante — In gay and bareback slang, the term "tournante" refers to a sexual plan where one person (usually passive) has sexual intercourse successively with several active partners.
Tranny — Tranny is a slang and derogatory term used to refer to a transgender person, most often a trans woman.
Trans and Transexual — A "trans" person is a transexual, meaning an individual whose gender identity does not correspond to the sex assigned to them at birth, and who has changed sex or is in the process of transformation.
Trans Person — A trans person is simply someone whose gender is not the one they were assigned at birth. It's an act of reclaiming power over oneself, a monumental "fuck you" addressed to the quick checkbox filled by a doctor years ago.
Transgender — Let's talk about an essential and often misunderstood word: 'transgender'. It's a term that touches the core of a person's identity.
Transidentities — The term "transidentities," in the plural, encompasses the richness and diversity of the experiences of trans people.
Transition — Transition is the process a transgender person undertakes to align their life and appearance with their gender identity.
Transition Hormones — In the arsenal of medical transition, hormones are often the most powerful and transformative tool.
Transphobia — Transphobia is much more than a simple "fear" of transgender people. It is a system of hatred, discrimination, and prejudice that can take many forms, ranging from seemingly harmless inappropriate jokes to the crudest physical violence.
Trash Plan (Plan Crade) — The trash plan, or 'plan crade', is a sexual encounter that explores the limits of disgust and provocation.
Trash Plan Definition — The term "trash plan," derived from English, refers to a category of sexual encounters that include practices considered "dirty," "degrading," "extreme," or "hardcore" by most people.
Trigender — We continue our exploration of gender identities with a fascinating term: 'trigender'. As its name suggests, 'tri' means three.
Trip — In the jargon of gay dating, when someone asks you "what's your trip?", they're not asking about the latest rave party pill or LSD.
Trixic Definition — 'Trixic' is a term used by and for non-binary people. As a reminder, a non-binary person is someone whose gender identity is not limited to 'man' or 'woman'.
Twink Gay Definition — These are young men who love pure, uninhibited sex! At least, in popular fantasy.
Two-Spirit Definition — 'Two-Spirit' is not just another label in the vast LGBTQ+ lexicon. It is a profound cultural term, which should only be used by those to whom it applies.

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Understanding the LGBTQ+ Term — The term LGBTQ+ is much more than a simple acronym; it is a flag, a gathering, and a celebration of the diversity of identities and orientations.
Undetectable and U=U — "Undetectable = Untransmittable" means that an HIV-positive person whose viral load has been undetectable for more than 6 months thanks to treatment does not pass on HIV through sex.
Urethral Sounding — Urethral sounding is an exploration of limits, a game for the most audacious. It is the act of inserting a thin, perfectly smooth and sterile metal rod directly into the urethra.
Urethral Sounding Definition — Some people enjoy the use of a urethral sound for their sexual encounters. This type of play fits perfectly within the framework of CBT (Cock and Ball Torture).

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Vanilla Definition — In casual sexual slang, "vanilla" is a term borrowed from English to describe sexual practices considered "conventional" or "mild." It is the opposite of more specialized, fetishistic, or "hardcore" practices.
Venal Plan — A venal plan refers to a sexual or intimate encounter where one party is compensated for their services.
Versatile (Auto-reverse) — Auto-reverse, more commonly known as "versatile" or "versa", refers to a person who is comfortable in both top and bottom roles during sexual activities.
Vincian Definition — Let's talk about the word 'vincian'. It's a term gaining popularity to describe something very simple: a man who is attracted to other men.
Violet Wand BDSM — The Violet Wand is an emblematic instrument in the world of BDSM and electrostimulation. Far from being a mere gadget, it is a sophisticated device that transforms electricity into a form of erotic art, capable of producing a range of sensations from delicate tingling to intense electrical bites.
Viral Load (VL) — Viral load is the amount of HIV measured in the blood (in copies per millilitre); on effective treatment it becomes undetectable, which protects the person's health and prevents sexual transmission.
Vorarephilia (Vore) — Vorarephilia, or "vore," is a fantasy and must absolutely remain so. It is the erotic desire to be eaten, to eat someone, or to observe the scene.
Voyeur Plan — A voyeur plan is for those who like to watch without necessarily participating. It's the opposite of an exhibitionist: pleasure comes from watching others having sex.
VTuber Definition — A VTuber is simple: it's a streamer, a guy or a girl who makes videos on YouTube or Twitch, but instead of showing their face, they use an avatar, most often a manga-style character.

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Waifuism and Husbandoism — Waifuism (for a female character) and Husbandoism (for a male character) are terms you may have encountered online, especially if you frequent anime or video game fan communities.
Watching Plan — A watching plan is the perfect plan for beginners or shy individuals. The principle is simple: you meet up with a guy to watch a porn film.
Water Sports (Jeux Humides) — Water Sports are the breaking of an ultimate taboo. It's where intimacy becomes so total that it embraces even what the body rejects.
Watersports Plan (Piss Play) Definition — A watersports plan, also known as piss play, is a fetishistic sexual practice centered around urine.
Waxplay (Candle Wax Play) — Waxplay, or candle wax play, is simple and direct: hot candle wax is poured onto your skin.

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Zone Dial / Mes-Dialogues.net — In the world of gay dating sites in France, some names resonate with a particular history and reputation.

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"Bottom" Role — In the world of gay sex, the terms "active" and "passive" are everywhere. If you're new to it, it might seem a bit rigid, but basically, it describes who does what during penetration.
"DASS" (French Slang for AIDS) — So, you're on a chat and someone asks you "t'as le DASS?". You frown, wondering if they're talking about some administrative department.
"Generous" and PnP Room — On English-speaking apps, "generous" is a password. It's a code that means "I have the product and I provide it." It's an invitation to a PnP (Party and Play) plan, a promise that the evening will not only be sexual but also chemical.
"Gift Giver" — In the lexicon of bareback, some terms are darker than others. "Gift Giver" is one of them.
"In the Closet" (Dans le placard) — Being "in the closet" means living behind a mask. For a trans person, it means continuing, day after day, to play the role of the gender assigned at birth.
"Juicy Hole" Definition in french slang — Juicy holes are, as you might guess, warm and moist places on the human body where sunlight often refuses to penetrate, but where our cocks love to engage!
"Juter" Meaning — "Juter". This verb is the action, the moment when everything is released.
"Satan's Headband" — The expression "Satan's headband" has almost disappeared today, and that's a good thing. It was an old, somewhat creepy term, to designate a downright criminal practice: drugging or manipulating someone to sexually submit them.
"Shrimp" French Slang Definition — The term shrimp doesn't necessarily refer to a very young man, but rather to a person with a very slender body.
"Yop" and "Yoping" — A yop plan is not about sharing a yogurt! Yop is simply sperm, due to the similarity between these two liquids in terms of their viscosity, content, and appearance.
2+2 Separate — The expression "2+2 separate" is a specific term in the libertine and swinger jargon. It describes a scenario of a meeting between two couples where partners are exchanged, and each new duo withdraws to a different room for sexual intercourse.